Before you read this just know that I’m a new mom trying to do my best for my baby, so please no judgement here. You may and probably do, do things differently and that’s great! As I would always tell my First Graders, “Different is what makes the world go round.” These are just a few things that I didn’t know I would do once my sweet Foster was here.
- Go to the bathroom while wearing or holding my baby. Whether it’s because he’s napping in his carrier or just doesn’t want to be put down. You do what you gotta do…while you doo doo (see what I did there). 🙂
- Cry when he went up a size in diapers. This was never even on my radar of things that would happen, but it did. It actually caused a fight between my husband and I because he told me Foster should go up a size in diapers (since he was growing..logical answer). My rebuttal was no, he’ll be fine for a few more weeks (don’t mind the pee all over the place because the diapers are in reality too small).
- Never dry my hair again…ever. Who has time for that nonsense? For all time consuming things I now mentally weigh the pros and cons. Is it worth it to do activity x if my son will be crying the whole time? The answer for blow drying my hair is always NO. It’s just not worth it. Plus the absence of heat is good for my hair, right?!
- Breastfeed in uncomfortable and strange places. So far the top runners are the back seat of my very small Toyota Yaris, in the bathroom of a Discount Tire (where I proceeded to shut my hand in the door when trying to exit), and in a Publix bathroom where a woman shamed me for feeding my child in public. (I’ll write more about this later!)
- Let him nap on me just so I can stare at him longer. He’s just so stinking perfect. Why wouldn’t I want to stare at him while he sleeps (in a non creepy way of course).
- Worry about everything. Having a baby will make you realize you truly have no control over anything. I find myself worrying way to often about things that I cannot control. Here are a few examples: why he hasn’t pooped, what’s that red spot on his arm, am I reading to him enough. Ok, you get the gist. I daily have to reel it back in and remember that God has got this and I need to breath for goodness sakes.
- The momma bear in me would come out full force. This is something else that I didn’t anticipate before having a baby. I didn’t know that as soon as he entered this world a protective side of me that has never shown itself would instantly appear. It started in the hospital. When they would take him for something I would count the minutes until they brought him back. Wondering if they had set him down somewhere by himself or if he missed me(I know it’s crazy but bare with me). Then when we brought him home came the visitors. I have never before been a germaphobe, BUT now antibacterial anything is my best friend. My number one job is to take care of my little boy and keep him safe. So frankly I don’t really care if I am overprotective.
- Believe every sappy, sweet thing ever said about having kids. They really are why we are here. It’s true! Babies encompass everything it means to be innocent, pure and love. I can just look at him and burst into tears over the absolute miracle that he is.
- That I would sing more than I talked. I am not gifted when it comes to the voice department. But, for some reason it soothes Foster when I sing, so I sing! I also don’t remember the words to most songs, so I make up words. My poor little guy is going to grow up hearing all sorts of different versions of children’s nursery rhymes.
- My to-do list would willingly go out the window. It is a part of my personality to be a to-do list person. I love how it feels to mark things off my list, but I don’t love how it feels to have my list grow and grow with nothing marked off. Therefore, I have decided to drop the to-do list and adopt a “maybe I’ll get to it one day list.” This type of list gives me way less anxiety and Lord knows I don’t want to add to my own anxiety.
While there are many things I’ve done or stopped doing that I didn’t know I would do. The biggest one is I didn’t know that I would love so much. Being a mom is truly the most life changing gift. I could never have fathomed it would be so amazing in every imperfect, beautiful way.Here’s to adding new things to my list!